The GROW Plan for Grief: Small Steps Toward Healing with Jesus

Grief is one of the hardest journeys any of us will ever walk. It’s easy to feel lost, unsure how to move forward when life feels broken. In Chapter 4 of “Death is a Liar,” Daniel B. Lancaster shares the GROW plan—a gentle, faith-filled way to begin healing, even when each day feels heavy.

What is the GROW Plan?

The GROW plan is Lancaster’s biblically grounded approach for those who are grieving. It’s not about rushing or “fixing” your pain. Instead, it invites you to take small, honest steps with Jesus, one day at a time.

G – Goals for the Journey

When loss turns your future upside down, even the simplest goals can help anchor your days. Lancaster encourages us to ask, “Lord, what are the three things you want me to do today?” These small, daily “faith statements” are a way to trust God for strength in the present.

R – Roadblocks

Grief is full of obstacles—loneliness, depression, doubts, and fear. The enemy wants to convince us we’re stuck forever. But as we bring these roadblocks to Jesus, He begins to clear a path. We remember that “they overcame by the blood of the Lamb and the word of their testimony” (Revelation 12:11).

O – Owning My Grief

Healing begins with honest confession. We admit our brokenness, our doubts, our efforts to manage pain on our own. God meets us in humility, not perfection: “I will bless those who have humble and contrite hearts.” (Isaiah 66:2, NLT)

W – Walking It Out

There is no shortcut through the valley. Grieving with Jesus means taking one faithful step at a time, trusting His Word as your map. You’re not meant to do this alone—Jesus walks with you, and so do others who care.

Start Small, Move Forward with Hope

You may not feel ready to set big goals or conquer every obstacle today. That’s okay. The GROW plan is about daily surrender, honest prayer, and finding purpose even in the midst of pain. Over time, these small steps, taken with Jesus, lead you toward healing, hope, and a future you can trust Him to shape.

You don’t have to rush. Just take the next step. God is with you.

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