Good Grief: What Christian Healing Really Looks Like

Grief is never easy, but it can be good. In Chapter 5 of “Death is a Liar,” Daniel B. Lancaster gently unpacks what makes “good grief” truly Christian. He reminds us that God never asks us to deny our sorrow. Instead, Jesus invites us to bring every tear, every question, and every ache to Him—trusting that He alone can transform our pain.

What Is Good Grief?

Good grief isn’t about “getting over it” or pretending everything is fine. It’s about honest lament—allowing ourselves to feel sorrow, while trusting that God is at work beneath the surface. Lancaster explains that healthy grief draws us closer to Jesus. We begin to discover that the same Savior who wept at the tomb of Lazarus (John 11:35) is the One who sits beside us in our darkest moments.

When Grief Goes Wrong

Unhealthy grief can become bitterness, isolation, or even hopelessness. It whispers that we are alone, or that our suffering is meaningless. But Scripture teaches that God is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and gives purpose, even in our pain. The enemy wants us trapped in regret or fear. Jesus offers freedom, healing, and new life.

Practicing Good Grief: Simple Steps

1. Name your sorrow honestly. Grief is not a sign of weak faith; it is a natural response to loss.

2. Bring your pain to Jesus. Even if all you can pray is “Help me,” He listens and cares.

3. Lean on your community. Good grief is not meant to be carried alone. Reach out to friends, church, or a support group.

4. Look for God’s comfort and purpose. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means letting God write a new chapter in your story.

Good Grief Is Hope-Filled

Christian grief always leads us back to hope—not because life is easy, but because Jesus is alive. Lancaster encourages us: your pain can become a platform for God’s comfort. The tears you shed today may one day water seeds of hope in someone else’s life.

If you’re grieving, take heart: “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4)

You’re not alone. There is such a thing as good grief, and Jesus is walking with you every step of the way.

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